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Try to Put Yourself in Someone Else’s Shoes

For a materialist, I’m pretty idealistic (no, I’m not mocking Paramore). Maybe some of you, who have been reading my blog for a year, more or less, know that I think and write in swordlike words, plus innuendos. About consumerism, or being trendy or being cheesy or even about definite individuals. Like this, or this, or dozens more tweets and under-160-characters type of posts. I know a lot of people were offended. A few protested and countered, and some might disliked me silently (or maybe not, and it’s just me).

I maybe sound so skeptical, but it doesn’t mean that I never regret my words. It doesn’t mean that I’m happy being a cynical person. I try to tell my version of truth, but sometimes it turns me unwise.

I wish I were wiser.

And the best way, I can think, to be wise is trying to put myself in someone else’s shoes as much as possible.

Putting yourself in someone else’s shoes is an idiomatic expression.

It’s meaning is that you should consider other people’s circumstances before passing judgement or making conclusions about them. Figuratively, putting yourself in someone else’s shoes means stepping directly into their life and viewing a situation as if you were that person. Hence, you would understand their thoughts and actions.

The lesson is that one should always consider other people’s perspectives before making conclusions. The expression most commonly applies to situations of conflict and judgement.

(very definitive definition from here)



To be wiser, maybe I have to try owning my own shoe shop.

So I can put myself in a lot of kinds of shoes.

Ugly brown boots, pink ballet flats, rubber flip-flops, cheapo fake Crocs ™, red stilettos, plain sneakers, old moccasin, fluffy slipper…

Ultra-expensive shoes of millionaires, or ultra-glamorous shoes of celebrities, are never affordable though. Too rich, and too popular, kind of shoes. Head over heels.

There, I can’t be any wiser.

“The idea of putting yourself in someone else’s shoes — that’s pretty basic. But staying conscious of that stuff helped me.”
– Don Freeman

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Puty Puar. F/28. Indonesian. Working at home mom, blogger, illustrator, book author & enthusiast. Also a small business owner. Contact her through puti [dot] karina [dot] puar [at] gmail [dot] com.


  1. itu sepatu2nya lucu sekali… *OOT* ahahaha.

    setelah mencoba sepatu orang lain, jangan lupa untuk kembali ke sepatu sendiri :)

  2. okayyy putt daku memang ga salah ngefans sm adikku inii..hehe xp TEOPE tulisanmu naakkk..hahaha

  3. ouch *reality kicks in*

    i love this post! even though when we try to put ourself in someone else’s shoes mean that we must be able to understand them more and of course to understand others better requires wisdom.

    how can we obtain wisdom?

    wisdom come from God and from our experience. i just hope that i have had enough experience to be able to be wise enough so that i won’t judge others that easily *as i, err we, always did, eh?*

  4. i’ve been reading ur blog for almost a year now, and when I read those two posts back then, I didnt think of u as a skeptical person. I thought, perhaps u have a background, a story or a reason, behind all ur writings.
    as same as those people, u wrote about, have stories behind their actions.

    love ur blog ;)

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