Love & Marriage, Thoughts
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Getting Engaged

Some people (read: girl friends) asked me how it feels to be engaged. I could neither explain it with only a couple of lines of text nor some sentences with sunshiny adjectives. Those who had been through this must know how indescribable it is.

Well, it’s actually a wonderful mix of happiness and worry. Happy; that I found and was found by the one. Happy that the only person that I want to spend the rest of my life with wants the same (at least he said so, and that is an engagement all about, anyway, haha). Happy to know that the feeling is mutual. On the other side, there’s also noteworthy worry; to think about what could go wrong. I heard a lot of stories about couple breaking up after getting engaged. I read enough chick lits where the bride-to-be ended up flying away with a stranger she’d just met on the plane. I have been told to be careful and not to over-think before getting married. Yes. Getting engaged doesn’t make a relationship break-up-proof.

Thinking about it a bit further, being engaged is a crucial phase. It’s a phase of committing without being fully attached. It’s a stage where love isn’t a matter of falling, or here and now, or saying it all the time anymore. It’s a chapter where we start to be responsible to take care of each other yet to take care of ourselves. It’s time to let a new family coming into ours. It’s the moment where we learn all over again, that nobody is perfect but everybody will do the best with love.

Yes. Getting engaged doesn’t make a relationship break-up-proof. ¬†We have to work on it ourselves.

I know we will :)

At the end of the day, it is wonderful, indeed.

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Puty Puar. F/28. Indonesian. Working at home mom, blogger, illustrator, book author & enthusiast. Also a small business owner. Contact her through puti [dot] karina [dot] puar [at] gmail [dot] com.


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