Change is The Only Constant

Sejujurnya saya sudah lama mau menulis soal ini, namun nggak kunjung sempat. Eh ternyata sekarang orang-orang sedang ramai membahas Awkarin yang membuat statement bahwa dia akan menjadi pribadi dan berbagi konten yang lebih baik ke depannya, meninggalkan masa lalunya yang sempat dia banggakan sebagai ‘Bad Influence’. Jujur, saya nggak pernah gimana-gimana banget sama Awkarin. I was aware that she promoted terrible stuff tapi saya merasa harus lebih objektif dan komprehensif saat membahas soal endorsement barang palsu dan obat-obat berbahaya lainnya. Soal itu saya sudah pernah tulis di sini.

Kali ini saya lebih tertarik membahas soal perubahan.

Awkarin is surely not the only one who changed. Everyone changed, everything changed. Kalau kata Heraclitus, “Change is the only constant”.

Sebagai orang yang tumbuh dengan internet dan rajin ‘berbagi’ kisah hidup saya sejak belasan tahun lalu, (baik melalui blog, ataupun media sosial lainnya–> Oh I created my Twitter account 11 years ago!), saya merasa perlu menuliskan ini. Seringkali statement atau tulisan atau foto yang kita publikasikan di masa lalu kemudian menyerang kita sendiri. Ingat kasus Amran Dhani vs Hans David yang habis diserang lalu banyak cuitan-cuitan lamanya yang super brengsek diretweet kembali? Atau mungkin James Gunn yang dipecat dari ‘Guardian of Galaxy 3’ karena tweet-tweet lamanya?

Saya pribadi merasa unggahan-unggahan lama tidak selalu relevan dan bisa merepresentasikan kita di masa kini apalagi di masa depan. I’m sure, everyone made mistakes in the past; big mistakes, stupid mistakes, well – mistakes in general. While some were forgotten easily, some left permanent traces. The older generation should thank Lord that they didn’t grow up with Instagram otherwise we might be able to see them smoking pot or going crazy in the disco. Some people are lucky that nobody really screen captured their mistakes, while some must accept that the playback of their stupidities 10 years ago is just a click away.

Jujur saja. Tulisan saya di blog ini sebelum tahun 2008 sudah saya arsipkan dan saya set ‘private’. I didn’t sell fake braces or boobs enlarger or cry over my ex online. I didn’t. Namun saya tetap ‘malu’ membacanya. I was so young and naive, and I really wanted to marry Iker Casillas. Banyak tulisan saya yang dulu saya pikir keren dan berbobot tapi ternyata sangat judgmental or even creepy. I accept them as my growing and learning process, but some people may not. 

So with this post I just would like to say:

Every human is a work in progress.

For those who think that you screw up in the past, I think it’s never too late to be a better person.

For those whose past mistakes seemed to leave permanent traces, I think you should forgive yourself first and leave another yet better permanent traces.

For those who think that you can always bring up a past tweet to attack the person who wrote it, I guess you haven’t changed and progressed at all, so you should be concerned more about yourself.

For those who have children, let them know that mistakes are humanly but we should try our best to be wise about what we are going to publish as they will never be erased completely.

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Cheers!